Valentine’s Day may look different when you have children, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t celebrate it!
One place that is important to couples on this day is the bedroom and there are steps you can take to make it child-free, even if it is just for one evening! So even if it is just for a few hours, here are some top tips for reclaiming your bedroom with you have children.
Obviously, you can’t forget about or ignore your kids but you can do your best to enjoy some important together time on Valentine’s Day or on any date night! Sometimes kids might be able to stay with friends or family or you might be able to get a babysitter, but that can be more tricky on popular holidays like Valentine’s Day. The good news is that you don’t need anything at all for these tips and you can do them at any time!
Here are 9 ways for parents to reclaim your bedroom when you have young children:
Take any toys out of the room
To achieve real escapism you need to remove the reality from your room! Children’s toys get everywhere so it is good to remove them from your bedroom, at least at nighttime, even if they do magically reappear in the day! If your children are older then keep the bed closed to discourage them from going in there.
Get nostalgic together
You had a life before kids, but sometimes it is nice to remind yourself of the times you had together before that. Look at old pictures, letters or messages to enjoy reminiscing about some of the great times you had together.
Make sure your bed is comfy
To truly relax and enjoy your Valentine’s Day bedroom you need a good Bedstar bed, one that is the right size for you and the space you’re in as well as sturdy enough to support a good mattress. You could even get one with storage into tuck kid’s toys away! If you don’t want to change your whole bed then you can change your headboard to one that you’ll really love. A nice headboard can really bring a room together, especially if you don’t have too much space.
Mattresses come in different levels of firmness so make sure to check that it is the right one for you. This is something that a sales advisor will be more than happy to help you to decide. Remember to measure your existing bed frame as well as the bedroom to make sure that both your bed and mattress are the right size!
Eat or drink something delicious together
The taste of good food and drink can really transport you to another place. It doesn’t matter if you cook or order in as long as it is something you both love and will bring back happy memories. While you eat it can be a great bonding experience to chat about the things you’ve eaten a certain dish or drunk a particular drink before at a favourite restaurant or on holiday. Food can also be a great aphrodisiac.
Don’t talk about the kids!
While kids understandably dominate your mind most of the time, it’s important to find time not to talk about them if you can. This gives you more time and space to talk about yourselves and each other for at least one night a week! You might be surprised about how soon you can reconnect when you step out of the parent zone just for a little while.
Make your bedroom into a sanctuary
Put something in your bedroom that makes it into your sanctuary, whether it is a piece of framed art, a vase with dried flowers inside it or a beautiful bedside table that puts your stamp on the place. It’s easy to forget about the bedroom as you’re asleep most of the time that you’re in it (although for less time when you have kids). But the environment of your bedroom matters and it’s important to make it into a place you feel peaceful and happy. One great tip is to sign up for your local Freecycle group online or on Facebook and you can collect great preloved items for free!
Wear the kids out in the day
Make sure the kids burn off enough energy by taking them out to the park, pool or to play games like football so they’re tired at bedtime. It’s also great if they visit friends or family who can help them burn off energy too! Check out this great post all about how to wear kids out when the weather isn’t cooperating for some great advice and tips.
Choose a time that works with the kids
If the kids have a good schedule then try and use that to decide what time you can get together. Even if it changes a little bit, try to be flexible if your time starts a little later than you had hoped! Everything is subject to change with kids but at least if you know you can do it again then it will help manage your disappointment.
Reschedule if you need to
Sometimes you can try your best and it all doesn’t go to plan, especially if a child is having a sleep regression or if they’re sick or getting sick then you can reschedule to another night. The thing is to remember that it doesn’t matter what night you reclaim your bedroom for yourselves, as long as you do it! It doesn’t even need to be a set night every week and you can adapt when you have your date night to suit your needs.
I hope all of these tips help you to reclaim your bedroom, this Valentine’s Day, or any other day for that matter! When you get precious time together then make sure to make the most of it!
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